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Can’t decide which rishta to choose so marry all of them

Fatwaa ID: 589

A boy has multiple proposals for marriage and each one is a good fit according to him. Can he choose to marry multiple of them (up to 4) or is he supposed to choose one. He is from a well off family and has financial strength on his own. If he wants to marry them should he be disclosing this to each of them or is he not required to seek their permission?

In the Name of Allaah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful.
As-salaamu ‘alaykum wa-rahmatullaahi wa-barakaatuh.

A man is permitted to marry up to four wives. If a person has multiple proposals and he finds it difficult to choose one, he is at liberty to choose all of them, up to four. As far as disclosing it to the suitors, it is necessary to firstly understand that secret marriages are not permissible. Secondly, keeping a second, third or fourth marriage hidden from the other wives and their respective families is not in the man’s best interest. The others will eventually find out and this may result in a break down of his marriages. If he wishes to marry all four, he should consult with all the suitors and decide from there. Whether or not the above is practical may differ from culture to culture. We advise the person in reference to consult his well wishers as well and make istikhaarah prior to making a decision.

And Allaah Ta’aala knows best.
Mufti Muajul I. Chowdhury
Darul Iftaa New York

07/23/1444 AH – 02/14/2023 CE | AML1-7064

وصل اللهم وسلم وبارك على سيدنا محمد وعلى ءاله وصحبه أجمعين


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