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Dealing with parents who sin

Fatwaa ID: 763

‎اَلسَّلَامُ عَلَيْكُمْ وَرَحْمَةُ اللّٰـهِ وَبَرَكاتُهُ‎

I recall a Hadith where you should keep your mom company the most

Should we still accompany her if she is partaking in a sin?

جزاك الله خيرا

In the Name of Allaah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful.
As-salaamu ‘alaykum wa-rahmatullaahi wa-barakaatuh.

May Allaah Ta’aala bless your parents. Each and every person sins. No one is perfect. If you see your mother doing something incorrect, encourage her to stay away from that with love and wisdom. Make du’aa for her guidance. Do not abuse her or raise your voice against her. Start doing ta’leem daily in the house with your family. Invite them to join.

Your mother’s sin is between her and Allaah Ta’aala. Her sins should not be a reason for you to disrespect her. You are accountable for how you interact with her, not for what she does. Make sure that you treat her with honor and kindness at all times.

Allaah Ta’aala says,

وَإِن جَاهَدَاكَ عَلى أَن تُشْرِكَ بِي مَا لَيْسَ لَكَ بِهِ عِلْمٌ فَلَا تُطِعْهُمَا وَصَاحِبْهُمَا فِي الدُّنْيَا مَعْرُوفًا

“If they put pressure on you to associate with Me (shirk) that of which you have no knowledge, do not obey them. Yet, keep their company in the world with kindness.” [Luqman 15]

When Asmaa bint Abi Bakr (R) enquired about how she should deal with her mother who was then an idolator, Rasulullaah ﷺ advised her to keep good ties with her.

If she advises you to engage in sin, then respectfully disobey her instruction and excuse yourself.

And Allaah Ta’aala knows best.
Mufti Muajul I. Chowdhury
Darul Iftaa New York

08/10/1444 AH – 03/02/2023 CE | AMG3-3448

وصل اللهم وسلم وبارك على سيدنا محمد وعلى ءاله وصحبه أجمعين


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