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Disclosing inclinations before marriage

Fatwaa ID: 2187

Should a man who struggles with his inclinations disclose this to a potential spouse before marriage if he knows she would never agree if she knew? What if the nikah already occurred but the marriage was not consummated?

In the Name of Allaah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful.
As-salaamu ‘alaykum wa-rahmatullaahi wa-barakaatuh.

It is not clear what exactly you mean by “inclinations” and “she would never agree”. An inclination is a person’s natural tendency or urge to act or feel in a particular way. A person is not required to mention his inclinations or desires to a suitor nor should they be mentioned in general situations. If the inclinations however are such that they would negatively effect the marriage moving forward in terms of fulfilling each other’s rights, then they should be discussed.

And Allaah Ta’aala knows best.
Mufti Muajul I. Chowdhury
Darul Iftaa New York

08/21/1445 AH – 03/02/2024 CE | 899

وصل اللهم وسلم وبارك على سيدنا محمد وعلى ءاله وصحبه أجمعين


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