Fatwaa ID: 1734
Assalamu Alaikum Wa Rahmatullahi Wa Barakatuhu Mufti Sahib, the below question is for a sister back in India.
1) If the girls side is requesting for an engagement sort of function, is it jaiz to perform it ? Can they exchange gifts?
2) For Mahr, Can they give land, money, gold, property etc ? What is not acceptable?
In the Name of Allaah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful.
As-salaamu ‘alaykum wa-rahmatullaahi wa-barakaatuh.
- The is no formal function or party for an engagement. An engagement simply refers to both parties agreeing to get married in the near future. This is generally done through a small private meeting. If they wish to voluntarily feed the attendees, that is permissible. However, people who do not have a direct involvement in this should not be unnecessarily invited. In terms of gifts, if one or both sides wish to voluntarily give gifts, that is permissible.
One should remember that an engagement does not make anything halaal. The bride and groom to be remain non-mahrams to each other until the nikaah takes place. The laws of hijaab and inter-gender interactions remain fully applicable.
Islam has made nikaah/marriage simple and easy. Keep it that way. Adding functions and events only make it difficult and contribute to the corruption amongst people. At times, such events lead to haraam as well. Islamically, there is a nikaah followed by a waleemah only. The nikaah is the formal contracting of the marriage. There is no party or function here. One may distribute dates or sweetmeats at the conclusion of this as an expression of happiness. The waleemah is the only function wherein a meal is provided, and this is by the groom, in accordance to his financial capability.
- Anything of material value may be given as mahr provided that the bride agrees to it and it is equivalent to the minimum or more. This can be in the form of land, money, gold and property.
And Allaah Ta’aala knows best.
Mufti Muajul I. Chowdhury
Darul Iftaa New York
02/27/1445 AH – 09/13/2023 CE | AML3-3673
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