Fatwaa ID: 1195
Assalamualaykum is there anything wrong islamically with a father changing his daughters diapers, helping with showers or baths? What is the different between a mother doing it for her son versus a father helping with gis daughter? When would the appropriate age be obviously where this should be stopped? Is it part or culture or there is some islamic point of view to it as well? I understand part of modesty/ hayaa is there and obviously as the kids get older they are more independent etc. but talking about the young aged children. Is there a difference for a mother doing it for her son versus a father doing it for his daughter. ? People have mentioned god forbid that men are more prone to sexually abusing the daughter then a mother would to her son. I really dont understand this logic if there is a trustworthy relationship between spouses and children.
In the Name of Allaah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful.
As-salaamu ‘alaykum wa-rahmatullaahi wa-barakaatuh.
It is permissible for the father to change the diaper of his non-baaligh male and female children and assist with showers and baths.
And Allaah Ta’aala knows best.
Mufti Muajul I. Chowdhury
Darul Iftaa New York
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