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Forced marriage

Fatwaa ID: 1654

Assalamualaikum. I was forced to marry a boy from my family from 2014 when I was 15 years old. But I never liked that boy. I told my family and the boy always that I don’t like him.They tortured me. At one point, in 2017,when I was 19, they started emotionally blackmailing me in the name of getting my opinions. I also inform that I will not marry now. After many things, suddenly one day everyone was quiet. They did’t tell me what’s going on. In one evening, my uncle came and told me that groom’s two sisters husbands would come. If they ask you something, you say yes. Don’t spoil our honor. Then his brother-in-law, his father, came to our house. My grandfather, uncle, and those three people were there. His sister-in-law asked me, Do you know that your marriage discussion is going on with our son? What is your opinion on this matter? I thought this was an engagement as he didn’t say that marriage is happening. Because my family tried to convince me for several days. Then I said yes while crying. I didn’t properly understand what’s going on.Then her father put a ring on me. And no registry, no acceptance, no mahr—nothing happened; I was not even informed at that moment. Even in front of me, no rules of marriage, such as listening to mahr, marriage contract or marriage was taking place at this moment. Later, I heard that nikah was happend in his shop. They say we are married.I asked them to tell me how they got married me. They didn’t tell me. In this case, is the marriage valid or not? Note : my father is alive, but we had not contact with him as my parents are separated and he didn’t take any responsibility for me.

In the Name of Allaah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful.
As-salaamu ‘alaykum wa-rahmatullaahi wa-barakaatuh.

We pray that Allaah Ta’aala grants you peace and comfort.

We take note of the details of your query. We understand that “forced to marry a boy from my family from 2014… ” refers to talks of marriage started from then. The actual incident only took place in 2017 when you were 19 years old. We understand that your honorable father was not contacted nor involved in this. He did not marry you off to the boy in question. We note that you also did not appoint anyone as your representative. You merely said yes to having knowledge regarding the discussion. You did not say yes to get married to him nor a proposal to that. If the above reflects the reality, then the nikaah did not take place. Your acceptance of the proposal or your father’s is vital. This was not found. We advise you to reach out to your local competent scholars and speak to them regarding moving forward. If your father is a man of understanding, then perhaps seek his assistance as well.

And Allaah Ta’aala knows best.
Mufti Muajul I. Chowdhury
Darul Iftaa New York

01/30/1445 AH – 08/17/2023 CE | 557

وصل اللهم وسلم وبارك على سيدنا محمد وعلى ءاله وصحبه أجمعين


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