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Husband demanding intimacy during the day of Ramadhan

Fatwaa ID: 1742


I wanted to know if a husband wants intimacy during Ramadan fasts, but the wife refuses to break it as it is Fardh, is she sinful for refusing him and should she break her fast if it means that not doing so will cause the husband to become angry and also may play a factor in the husband wanting to divorce the wife as the husband sees this as wife rejecting him.

JazakAllah khair

In the Name of Allaah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful.
As-salaamu ‘alaykum wa-rahmatullaahi wa-barakaatuh.

The fast of Ramadhaan is obligatory upon every sane adult Muslim male and female. Unless traveling or ill, there is no scope of missing, skipping or breaking a fast. Breaking a fast without a legitimate reason is a major sin. The demand of a shameless sinful husband does not qualify as a legitimate reason. The wife must refuse the husband’s advances for intimacy while she is fasting in the month of Ramadhaan. There is no obedience to creation while disobeying Allaah Ta’aala. She will not be sinful for refusing him. Rather, he is sinful for making such inappropriate demands.

The husband should be advised about his Hereafter and his accountability to Allaah Ta’aala. The wife should make du’aa for his guidance. She should also start ta’leem at home, especially studying the virtues of Ramadhaan at or around that time.

And Allaah Ta’aala knows best.
Mufti Muajul I. Chowdhury
Darul Iftaa New York

03/01/1445 AH – 09/17/2023 CE | AML1-8310

وصل اللهم وسلم وبارك على سيدنا محمد وعلى ءاله وصحبه أجمعين


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