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Husband spending on parents and siblings

Fatwaa ID: 1191


Are daughters as obligated to take care of her parents as her brothers are?

My husband is responsible for groceries, internet and other expenses in the household. When his sister comes home from her in-laws, my mother in law asks my husband to buy her things (a blender etc) I wanted to know if it’s within my rights to be upset at this?

My sister in law is very sweet and kind, and so is my mother in law!

It just upsets me a little because my husband tends to buy items for the house that (I think) should be purchased by my father in law (he’s financially able)

I also wanted to know, if I make a good living (more than my husband and father in law) is my husband more obligated to spent on his parents?

I love my in laws, I just feel like it’s unfair when my husband spends money on his siblings and FIL/ MIL when he has me as a responsibility. Because of this, I tend to buy stuff myself as to not burden him.

In the Name of Allaah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful.
As-salaamu ‘alaykum wa-rahmatullaahi wa-barakaatuh.

Sister in islam,
May Allaah Ta’aala bless your marriage and fill it with love, harmony and happiness. May He continue to keep your relationship with your in-laws strong and loving.

Your husband’s money is his money. He may spend it on his parents and siblings. He is rewarded for that. Your earnings does not affect his spending. As long as he is taking care of you and providing for you, it should not bother you. You have no right to be upset.

We sincerely advise you not to let these things bother you. These small issues tend to get bigger if you entertain them. Cherish your relationship with your in-laws. If possible, buy gifts for them as well from time to time. This will strengthen the love and bond and will bring about happiness in the family.

And Allaah Ta’aala knows best.
Mufti Muajul I. Chowdhury
Darul Iftaa New York

وصل اللهم وسلم وبارك على سيدنا محمد وعلى ءاله وصحبه أجمعين


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