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Husband thinks wife is mentally ill

Fatwaa ID: 1810

Pls guide in the following circumstances someone is know is facing.

Husband (around 65 years old ) wife ( around 55 years old). Married for 40+ years, both healthy and active.
Both has been arguing from quite long on and off. Fought and forgave.

The husband had been calling her mentally ill for quite some time during their fight ( although she is not) he once forced her to go doctor.

The doctor gave medicine. She then became quite ill. Went to doc again. Another doc stopped medicine.

Now after few years, this time when they fought.
He is demanding her to go to the doctor get herself mentally checked and take medicine. Or leave his house.

Currently she is living in her room and only comes out when husband is not around.

Their 3 married sons lives separately and don’t want to take either one side as they think it would be unfair. They tried to convince their father that she is not mentally ill but he is adamant.

What should the wife do? Should she get herself checked and take medicine? ( she is afraid that he will use cheap tactics to prove her mentally ill) Or leave?

Hope its clear.

In the Name of Allaah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful.
As-salaamu ‘alaykum wa-rahmatullaahi wa-barakaatuh.

We take note of the details of your query. May Allaah Ta’aala place love, mercy and affection between the couple and allow them to live with happiness and bliss.

We note that the husband is adamant on the wife consulting a mental health professional. If the wife claims that she is not mentally ill, then she should go see a reliable competent doctor and inform them of the issue at hand. They will assess the situation and advise accordingly. If she is not ill, then they would not prescribe her any medicine. How would the husband use cheap tactics to prove something? A check up is generally confidential and one on one. The wife may consider advising the husband to go for a similar consultation as well.

And Allaah Ta’aala knows best.
Mufti Muajul I. Chowdhury
Darul Iftaa New York

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