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Leaving husband because in-laws speak bad about my parents

Fatwaa ID: 1646

Assalamualaikum Mufti Saheb, I want to know that can I leave my husband if my mother in law and brother in law abuses my parents and family every time they get the opportunity. They usually wait for my parents to do one mistake and they takes the opportunity. My husband gets influenced by them and end up saying harsh things about my parents. It’s obvious they always takes their mother and brother side. On this ground can I leave my husband and take Khula from him.

In the Name of Allaah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful.
As-salaamu ‘alaykum wa-rahmatullaahi wa-barakaatuh.

It is unfortunate and becoming of your husband that he gets influenced by them instead of stopping them. A husband ought to respect his in-laws and prevent abuse.

We suggest you communicate and speak to your husband regarding this. Bring up your concerns and your feelings. We understand that it is hurtful but divorce is not always an answer. See what steps may be taken to mitigate this problem. People will unfortunately always talk bad and try find faults.

It should be noted that you cannot just leave your husband. Khula’ refers to the wife offering a material amount in lieu of the husband issuing a divorce. The husband must accept the offer for the khula’ to be valid. If he does not accept the offer, then divorce will not take place and she cannot leave him.

Pray Salaatul Haajah, asking Allaah Ta’aala to change the hearts of your in-laws and bring about love and unity. Try to win them with your good behavior and kindness. It should be noted that the brother-in-law is a non-mahram. The interactions with him must be restricted and monitored.

And Allaah Ta’aala knows best.
Mufti Muajul I. Chowdhury
Darul Iftaa New York

01/30/1445 AH – 08/17/2023 CE | AML1-8202

وصل اللهم وسلم وبارك على سيدنا محمد وعلى ءاله وصحبه أجمعين


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