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Living with in-laws

Fatwaa ID: 1210

As salmuwalikum Mufti Saab , please give advice regarding a sister who’s mother in law and father in law always use abusive language and fight with her . The Sister family convinced her husband to keep them separate house to maintain good relationship but the husband without asking he brings them home and gives false excuses that his parents are sick. The sister is so depressed that she can’t take them easily, she ask separation from the husband if he wants them living together. The sister has no problem to support the in law living expenses but she can’t live together with her mother in law. Respected Mufti, does the sister has to live together with mother in law if the situation always brings fighting. Please advise

In the Name of Allaah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful.
As-salaamu ‘alaykum wa-rahmatullaahi wa-barakaatuh.

May Allaah Ta’aala make it easy for the sister in reference and fill her marriage with love and happiness. A wife does not have to live with her mother-in-law, especially if it leads to fights and abuse. Such issues may negatively her marriage life as well. The wife is entitled to separate living quarters. Notwithstanding this, when she does visit, she should try to win her in-laws over with kindness. She should make du’aa for them as well.

And Allaah Ta’aala knows best.
Mufti Muajul I. Chowdhury
Darul Iftaa New York

وصل اللهم وسلم وبارك على سيدنا محمد وعلى ءاله وصحبه أجمعين


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