Fatwaa ID: 687

Question:
Salam alikum bro
What’s the ruling on long term courtship,marriage prospect, let’s say i take a few years, I get to know someone strictly through text message, maybe with the parents knowing about it or if the parents don’t know, would it be permissible?
Jazakallah khair

Answer:
In the Name of Allaah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful.
As-salaamu ‘alaykum wa-rahmatullaahi wa-barakaatuh.

This concept of courtship is contrary to the values of Islam. You are pretty much in a relationship with her but restricted. This churns and raises feelings and emotions. This will not be permissible. Overall compatibility between individuals can be determined within a short scope of time. Once that is found, the prospectives should consider getting married soon without unnecessary delay. Love is created from then on and builds as the couple start living a married life. It should also be noted that unrestricted interactions between non-mahrams of the opposite gender is impermissible irrespective of whether the parents know or do not know.

And Allaah Ta’aala knows best.
Mufti Muajul I. Chowdhury
Darul Iftaa New York
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وصل اللهم وسلم وبارك على سيدنا محمد وعلى ءاله وصحبه أجمعين

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