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Not permitted to see elderly father

Fatwaa ID: 2180


The question is about Sharia.

My brother and his wife live together with my elderly father.

My other brother( who is single )is not allowed to see my father, without my brother being home (the one lives with my father) they say is Sharia Law.

He is only allowed one visit a week for an hour.

The wife doesn’t follow Islamic hijab.

What is the ruling on that.

Most appreciated your advice.

In the Name of Allaah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful.
As-salaamu ‘alaykum wa-rahmatullaahi wa-barakaatuh.

May Allaah Ta’aala bless your father with a long blissful and healthy life. May He fill your relationship with your brother and the family at large with love and harmony.

We take note of the details of your query. There are two issues in your query: visiting your father and going to your married brother’s house.

  1. There is no restriction in how often one can see his father or how long one can spend with him. The more time one can spend with the father and serve him, the better for him. However, this may not be the issue in your brother’s case.
  2. It is not permissible for a person to be alone with a non-mahram irrespective of whether she observes the hijaab or not. While the brother’s wife is not exactly alone in the enquired situation as the father is also present, the father being elderly may be akin to him not being present. The brother is perhaps uncomfortable, rightfully so, in having his brother, a non-mahram to his wife, visit the house in his absence.
  3. That being said, the married brother should be considerate that all the siblings are entitled to spending quality time with the father. Hence, when he is present, he should permit his brothers to visit. Once a week for an hour only may not be enough. He will be rewarded for hosting them and maintaining ties of kinship.

And Allaah Ta’aala knows best.
Mufti Muajul I. Chowdhury
Darul Iftaa New York

08/15/1445 AH – 02/25/2024 CE | 873

وصل اللهم وسلم وبارك على سيدنا محمد وعلى ءاله وصحبه أجمعين


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