Fatwaa ID: 1622
Assalam o alekum WRWB,
I have a question on rights of widow sister on a brother in Islam.
I have a sister who is a widow about 60 yrs old 5 yrs older than me, her husband passed away in 2010 she was living in Pakistan raising her two handicap adult kids and a daughter who is married now, I sponsored her and in 2016 bring her here to US she lives in a house near my Neighbour hood in US, my parents were living with me in US for last 20 yrs also both passed away in 2021. My sister believes in superstitious things and magic etc. Allah SWT had allowed me to support here since 2016 directly as she is in US and prior when she was in Pakistan. She had been very difficult for all my family and close family my other sisters and their families and with her daughter and her husband and his family. She was living close to her daughter and in laws who begged me to move away as she was interfering in their daily lives.
What is my religious obligation by Order of Allah to keep her close and take care of her need as it has been difficult to have patience with verbal abuse from her on daily basis.
Jazak Allah Kharin
In the Name of Allaah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful.
As-salaamu ‘alaykum wa-rahmatullaahi wa-barakaatuh.
May Allaah Ta’aala bless you and reward you for your kindness and good. May He make it easy for you and the families. In the absence of the husband, the son and the father, the responsibility is on the brother. When you take care of her, you are not only fulfilling this responsibility, but you are also joining family ties and being generous. Your reward is thus manifold.
In the enquired situation, you do not need to live with her nor does she need to live close to the other family members. You can still take care of her needs without living near. We suggest you consult with the close family members and decide on a solution. You cannot forsake her and let her down. She is your sister at the end of the day.
At the same time, speak to your sister. Communication is very important. Let her know about the concerns and advise her to treat everyone appropriately. She is a family senior and if she treats everyone nicely, everyone will respect her and love her. Make du’aa for ease in the matter.
And Allaah Ta’aala knows best.
Mufti Muajul I. Chowdhury
Darul Iftaa New York
01/27/1445 AH – 08/14/2023 CE | 532
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