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Same sex attraction

Fatwaa ID: 1775

Question:
Assalāmu alaykum wa raḥmatuLlahi wa barakātuh.

  • A person who engages in same sex attractions.
  • Will he remain muslim after engaging in such behaviours?
  • Whats the ruling of a person who have inclinations or has thoughts thereof?
  • Whats the ruling of denying it’s impermissiblity?
  • How does Muslims engage with a person who denys same sex attraction to be impermissible aswel as those who affirm its impermissiblity?
  • How does a muslim engage with none Muslims who has these beliefs?

Can Muslims have relationships with these persons and how should treat them?

Answer:
In the Name of Allaah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful.
As-salaamu ‘alaykum wa-rahmatullaahi wa-barakaatuh.

  1. Your question is not clear. Nonetheless, engaging in haraam, including major sins, does not take one out of the fold of Islam unless he regards his action to be permissible. Engaging in such acts while regarding them to be impermissible does render one sinful for which sincere tawbah and istighfaar is necessary.
  2. Mere inclinations and thoughts are often beyond one’s control. One would not be sinful unless he acts upon them or entertains them. Likewise, voluntarily bringing such thoughts is sinful. If a person controls his feelings and thoughts and does not act upon them, then he will be rewarded. Our test as Muslims is in curbing our desires and thoughts and subjugating them to the Shari’ah.
  3. To deny the impermissibility of something that has been established to be haraam is kufr. Homosexuality is haraam without a shadow of doubt. The prohibition is established from the Qur’aan and the Ahaadith. To regard this heinous sin to be permissible or even open for interpretation is kufr. It will take one out of the fold of Islam.

4a. Such a person is not a Muslim. If you are enquiring about how to engage with him on this topic, then that should be academically, with wisdom. Being unnecessarily harsh may drive him further away from Islam. If you guage that the person is not sincere but rather stubborn upon his deviance, then it is better to refrain from engaging with him on this topic.
If your question is about engaging with him in general situations, then his deviances and beliefs should not make any difference unless that is directly affecting your situation. We do not treat people differently because of how they sin unless the matter at hand is being affected because of that. Depending on the situation, the advices and guidelines will differ.

4b. I am not sure what you mean by your question. If a person affirms its impermissibility, then that is in accordance to the Shari’ah.

  1. See the above. Aside from that, a Muslim must remain firm on his beliefs and values and strictly refrain from compromising to please others. The non-Muslims will never be pleased with our values. However, remaining steadfast upon our values earns us dominance and respect.
  2. See the above two answers. In terms of befriending such people, we have been advised to befriend those who will remind us of Allaah Ta’aala and bring us closer to Him. It is not permissible to befriend those who will have a negative impact on us and our values and/or drive us away from Him. As far as maintaining formal relations, then that is permissible but again one must be cautious not to be affected by them. If they are promoting their filth, then we must avoid them unless necessary.

In all cases, it is important for us as Muslims to remain cognizant and educate ourselves and our families regarding our beliefs and values from correct sources. We must also remember that our morality and values are from the divine. Anything from the divine is perfect even if we fail to comprehend its wisdom. We must work towards subjugating our ideas and thoughts to the teachings of Islam. We would only be true Muslims then.

And Allaah Ta’aala knows best.
Mufti Muajul I. Chowdhury
Darul Iftaa New York
https://askthemufti.us/

03/09/1445 AH – 09/25/2023 CE

وصل اللهم وسلم وبارك على سيدنا محمد وعلى ءاله وصحبه أجمعين


The following fatwaa may be beneficial.

Title: LGBT Friends

Question:
Assalamualaikum WRBR,
Hope all is well. I have some questions regarding my friend-group base. I take part-time alima classes and I feel as if it has affected me in a really good spiritual way. So basically, four of my friends came out and said that they were gay/homesexual (LGBT.) Both pairs started dating. I felt this discomfortness for some reason. I congratulated them and left an hour or two later. After I left, I started thinking and felt myself feeling like disgusted kind of? I felt as if I didn’t wanna go meet with them again, even though we all have a close relationship. The next day, all my friends starting teasing them about like weddings and stuff, we didn’t actually mean it though. Now I want to ask, it is permissible to still hang with them? I feel as if it’s not..because they are well um LGBT. Also, is it halal or haram to support them/LGBT people? The other thing is that someone asked me if I wanted a boyfriend. I straight away said no, because I know it is haram and it is zeena sin, one of the worst sins. Then they asked me why. I replied with saying I’ll let them know when I find out. They agreed. Now, I’ll summarize the questions for you so it may be easy iA.
1: Should I further hang with them or no?
2: Is it halal or haram to support them/the LGBT community/people?
3: Why are boy/girlfriends haram?

Jazakullah Khairun, May Allah SWT reward you for all the efforts, Ameen Summa Ameen.
(Also, please try to answer my questions as quickly as possible as I need the answers!)

Answer:
In the Name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful.
As-salāmu ‘alaykum wa-rahmatullāhi wa-barakātuh.

Homosexuality is a major sin in Islam. Consider the following verses and Ahadith:

وَلُوطًا إِذْ قَالَ لِقَوْمِهِ أَتَأْتُونَ الْفَاحِشَةَ مَا سَبَقَكُمْ بِهَا مِنْ أَحَدٍ مِنَ الْعَالَمِينَ. إِنَّكُمْ لَتَأْتُونَ الرِّجَالَ شَهْوَةً مِنْ دُونِ النِّسَاءِ بَلْ أَنْتُمْ قَوْمٌ مُسْرِفُونَ. [الأعراف: ٨٠-٨١]
Translation: “And (We sent) Lut (Lot) when he said to his people,. Do you commit the shameful act in which nobody in the world has ever preceded you? You come to men lustfully instead of women. No, you are a people who cross the limits.”

أَتَأْتُونَ الذُّكْرَانَ مِنَ الْعَالَمِينَ (165) وَتَذَرُونَ مَا خَلَقَ لَكُمْ رَبُّكُمْ مِنْ أَزْوَاجِكُمْ بَلْ أَنْتُمْ قَوْمٌ عَادُونَ. [الشعراء: ١٦٥-١٦٦]
Translation: “Do you go to the males (for having sex) out of the whole universe, and leave your wives whom your Lord has created for you? Indeed you are a people who cross (all) limits..”

عَنْ جَابِرِ بْنِ عَبْدِ اللَّهِ، قَالَ: قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ – صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ -: “إِنَّ أَخْوَفَ مَا أَخَافُ عَلَى أُمَّتِي عَمَلُ قَوْمِ لُوطٍ.” [سنن ابن ماجه: ٢٥٦٣]
Translation: It is reported from Jabir ibn Abdillah (رضي الله تعالى عنه) that he said, the Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) said, “Indeed the thing I fear most upon my Ummah is the action of the people of Lut (عليه السلام).”

One should never congratulate anyone in relation to any sin. Doing so shows that one is pleased with the sin, which can be a sin itself as is clear from the following Hadith:

عن العُرْسِ ابن عَمِيرَةَ الكِندي، عن النبيَّ -صلَّى الله عليه وسلم- قال: “إذا عُمِلَت الخطيئةُ في الأرض كان من شَهدها فكَرهَها -وقال مرة: فأنكرها- كان كمن غابَ عنها، ومن غابَ عنها فَرضيها كان كمن شَهدها.” [سنن أبي داود: ٤٣٤٥]
Translation: It is narrated from ʻUrs ibn ʻAmīrah (رضي الله تعالى عنه) from the Prophet (ﷺ) that he said: “Whenever a sin is committed on the land, whoever witnesses it and dislikes it (and he (ﷺ) said once “and disapproves of it”) is like one who was absent from it. And whoever is absent from it but is pleased with it, is like one who was present (and partisan to the sin).”

“Disapproving” or “Disliking” in the above Hadith is clarified in another Hadith:
عن أبي سعيدٍ الخُدْرِيِّ – رضي الله عنه -، عن رسولِ الله – صلى الله عليه وسلم -: “مَن رَأَى مِنكم مُنكَرًا فلْيُغيرْه بيدِه، فإنْ لم يستَطِعْ فَبلسانِه، فإنْ لم يستطِعْ فبقلبهِ، وذلكَ أضعفُ الإيمانِ.” [صحيح المسلم: ٧٨]
Translation: It is narrated from Abū Saʻīd al-Khudrī (رضي الله تعالى عنه) from the Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) that he said: “Whoever sees an evil, then he should alter it with his hand and if he is unable to, then with his tongue and if he is unable to, then with his heart and that is the weakest (manifestation of) belief.”

Therefore, approving or feeling pleased at another’s sin can be a sin. One should try to prevent the sin physically, if not then verbally, and if not, then at least dislike it in one’s heart. The fact that you felt discomfort is a good sign, just as you should feel discomfort with any sin.

As for keeping their company, one should keep in mind that company has a great impact on one’s spirituality. Therefore, one should be careful when choosing company, as Nabi (ﷺ) said:
عَنْ أَبِي هُرَيْرَةَ، قَالَ: قَالَ رَسُولُ اللهِ صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ: “الرجل على دين خليله فلينظر أحدكم من يخالل.”
Translation: It is narrated from Abū Hurayrah (رضي الله تعالى عنه) that he said, the Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) said: “A man is on the religion (Dīn) of his companion, thus, one of you should consider (carefully) whom he befriends.”

Pious company will have a positive impact on one’s spirituality, whilst bad company will have the opposite effect. Nabi (ﷺ) has said:

عن أنس، قال: قال رسولُ الله -صلى الله عليه وسلم-“…ومثلُ جليسِ الصَّالحِ كمَثَلِ صَاحِب المِسْكِ إنْ لم يُصِبْكَ منه شيءٌ أصابك مِن ريحه، ومَثَلُ جليسِ السُّوءِ كمَثَلِ صاحِبِ الكِيرِ، إن لم يُصِبْكَ من سَوَادِه أصَابك من دُخَانِه.” [سنن أبي داود: ٤٨٢٩]
Translation: “A good companion is like a man who sells musk; if nothing of it goes to you, its fragrance will (certainly) go to you; and a bad companion is like a man (i.e. a blacksmith) who has bellows; if its black (flake hammerscale) does not go to you, its smoke will (certainly) go to you.”

It is clear from the above Hadith that even if one is not actively engaged in sin, sinful company will have a negative effect on a person.

You may keep connection with them for the purpose of guiding them onto the truth. However, if there is a possibility of you falling into sin, then you should avoid such company.
It is important that one hates the sin and not the person. Allah quotes Lut (عليه السلام) in the Quran saying:
قَالَ إِنِّي لِعَمَلِكُمْ مِنَ الْقَالِينَ. رَبِّ نَجِّنِي وَأَهْلِي مِمَّا يَعْمَلُونَ [الشعراء: ١٦٨-١٦٩]
Translation: “He said: Indeed, I am annoyed with your act. My Lord, save me and my family from what they do..”

In this verse, when Lut (عليه السلام) knew his people would not stop their impermissible action, he openly declared that he hated their action and asked Allah to save him from it. The focus was the impermissible action, which was a violation of the command of Allah.

As for mocking them, then this is totally impermissible. Consider the following verse and Ahadith:

يَاأَيُّهَا الَّذِينَ آمَنُوا لَا يَسْخَرْ قَوْمٌ مِنْ قَوْمٍ عَسَى أَنْ يَكُونُوا خَيْرًا مِنْهُمْ وَلَا نِسَاءٌ مِنْ نِسَاءٍ عَسَى أَنْ يَكُنَّ خَيْرًا مِنْهُنَّ وَلَا تَلْمِزُوا أَنْفُسَكُمْ وَلَا تَنَابَزُوا بِالْأَلْقَابِ بِئْسَ الِاسْمُ الْفُسُوقُ بَعْدَ الْإِيمَانِ وَمَنْ لَمْ يَتُبْ فَأُولَئِكَ هُمُ الظَّالِمُونَ. [الحجرات: ١١]
Translation: “O you who believe, no men should ever scoff at other men. May be, the latter are better than the former. Nor should women (ever scoff) at other women. May be, the latter women are better than the former ones. And do not find fault with one another, nor call one another with bad nicknames. Bad is the name of sinfulness after embracing Faith. If anyone does not repent, then such people are the wrongdoers.”

عَنْ أَبِي هُرَيْرَةَ، قَالَ قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صلى الله عليه وسلم ‏”‏ لاَ تَحَاسَدُوا وَلاَ تَنَاجَشُوا وَلاَ تَبَاغَضُوا وَلاَ تَدَابَرُوا وَلاَ يَبِعْ بَعْضُكُمْ عَلَى بَيْعِ بَعْضٍ وَكُونُوا عِبَادَ اللَّهِ إِخْوَانًا ‏.‏ الْمُسْلِمُ أَخُو الْمُسْلِمِ لاَ يَظْلِمُهُ وَلاَ يَخْذُلُهُ وَلاَ يَحْقِرُهُ ‏.‏ التَّقْوَى هَا هُنَا ‏”‏ ‏.‏ وَيُشِيرُ إِلَى صَدْرِهِ ثَلاَثَ مَرَّاتٍ ‏”‏ بِحَسْبِ امْرِئٍ مِنَ الشَّرِّ أَنْ يَحْقِرَ أَخَاهُ الْمُسْلِمَ كُلُّ الْمُسْلِمِ عَلَى الْمُسْلِمِ حَرَامٌ دَمُهُ وَمَالُهُ وَعِرْضُهُ ‏”‏. [المسلم: ٢٥٦٤]
Translation: “Do not envy one another, do not bid out one another inflating the price (shill bidding), do not hate one another, do not turn your backs on one another, do not sell over the sale of others and be slaves of Allah as brothers. A Muslim is the brother of a Muslim, he does not oppress him, nor abandon him, nor mock him. God consciousness is here (and he was pointing to his chest thrice). It is sufficient evil for a man to mock his Muslim brother. A Muslim, all of him is sacred upon another Muslim, his blood, his wealth and his honour.”

عن عائشة (رضي الله تعالى عنه) قالت: قال رسول الله (ﷺ) “ما أحب أني حكيت أحدا وإن لي كذا وكذا.”
Translation: “I would not like to imitate (mockingly) anyone, even if I was given such and such (wealth).”
In another Hadith:

عَنِ ابْنِ عُمَرَ، قَالَ صَعِدَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صلى الله عليه وسلم الْمِنْبَرَ فَنَادَى بِصَوْتٍ رَفِيعٍ فَقَالَ: “‏يَا مَعْشَرَ مَنْ قَدْ أَسْلَمَ بِلِسَانِهِ وَلَمْ يُفْضِ الإِيمَانُ إِلَى قَلْبِهِ لاَ تُؤْذُوا الْمُسْلِمِينَ وَلاَ تُعَيِّرُوهُمْ وَلاَ تَتَّبِعُوا عَوْرَاتِهِمْ فَإِنَّهُ مَنْ تَتَبَّعَ عَوْرَةَ أَخِيهِ الْمُسْلِمِ تَتَبَّعَ اللَّهُ عَوْرَتَهُ وَمَنْ تَتَبَّعَ اللَّهُ عَوْرَتَهُ يَفْضَحْهُ وَلَوْ فِي جَوْفِ رَحْلِهِ.”
Translation: “Oh accompany of those who has submitted with their tongues but belief has not yet entered their hearts, do not harm the Muslims, do not insult them and do not search for their faults, for whoever searches for the fault of his Muslim brother, Allah will search out his fault and whoever Allah searches the fault of, he will disgrace him even if he is in the centre of his home.”

It is reported from Abdullah ibn Mas’ood (رضي الله تعالى عنه) that he said, “If I mock a dog, I fear I will become one.”

One should support them by assisting them in refraining from their sin. We are taught in sharia to support a sinful person by stopping them from committing their wrong. Consider the following Hadith:

عَنْ أَنَسٍ رَضِيَ اللَّهُ عَنْهُ، قَالَ: قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ: «انْصُرْ أَخَاكَ ظَالِمًا أَوْ مَظْلُومًا» فَقَالَ رَجُلٌ: يَا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ، أَنْصُرُهُ إِذَا كَانَ مَظْلُومًا، أَفَرَأَيْتَ إِذَا كَانَ ظَالِمًا كَيْفَ أَنْصُرُهُ؟ قَالَ: «تَحْجُزُهُ، أَوْ تَمْنَعُهُ، مِنَ الظُّلْمِ فَإِنَّ ذَلِكَ نَصْرُهُ» [صحيح البخاري: ٦٩٥٢]
Translation: “It is reported from Anas (رضي الله تعالى عنه) that he said the Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) said, “Assist your brother whether he is an oppressor or the oppressed.” So a man said, “Oh Messenger of Allah (ﷺ), I should help him if he is the oppressed, tell me, if he is the oppressor, how can I help him?” He (ﷺ) said, “Restrain him” or (he said) “prevent him from his oppression, for indeed that is helping him.”

Oppression can be against one’s own soul by sinning. Preventing the oppressor is assisting him because it wards off the sin from him, which could have been a means of him entering the fire.
Therefore, the best assistance you can provide them is to prevent them from committing their sin. However, if you feel you may fall into the sin yourself then you should avoid them and find another way to assist them.

It is haram for non-Mahram males and females to have extramarital relationships. Consider the following verse:
فَانْكِحُوهُنَّ بِإِذْنِ أَهْلِهِنَّ وَآتُوهُنَّ أُجُورَهُنَّ بِالْمَعْرُوفِ مُحْصَنَاتٍ غَيْرَ مُسَافِحَاتٍ وَلَا مُتَّخِذَاتِ أَخْدَانٍ… [النساء:٢٥]
Translation: “So, marry them with the permission of their masters, and give them their dues, as recognized, they being chaste, not fornicating, nor taking boy-friends…”

The above verse clearly prohibits having (impermissible) relationships except through proper marriage. Any extramarital relationship is considered Zina and is a major sin. Allah has commanded us in the Quran:

وَلَا تَقْرَبُوا الزِّنَا إِنَّهُ كَانَ فَاحِشَةً وَسَاءَ سَبِيلًا [بني إسرائيل: ٣٢]
Translation: “Do not even go close to fornication. It is indeed a shameful act, and an evil way to follow.”

Allah has prohibited not only Zina in the above verse, but also not to come close to it. Zina is looked down upon not only by Muslims, but all religions. The fact that Allah has called it shameful, shows that the vulgarity of Zina is something understood through logic. Zina leads to many harms, at an individual, family and societal level. Zina is not only physical contact, but even speaking and lusting in one’s heart. Consider the following Hadith:

عَنِ ابْنِ عَبَّاسٍ، قَالَ: مَا رَأَيْتُ شَيْئًا أَشْبَهَ بِاللَّمَمِ مِمَّا قَالَ أَبُو هُرَيْرَةَ: أَنَّ النَّبِيَّ صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ قَالَ: «إِنَّ اللهَ كَتَبَ عَلَى ابْنِ آدَمَ حَظَّهُ مِنَ الزِّنَا، أَدْرَكَ ذَلِكَ لَا مَحَالَةَ، فَزِنَا الْعَيْنَيْنِ النَّظَرُ، وَزِنَا اللِّسَانِ النُّطْقُ، وَالنَّفْسُ تَمَنَّى وَتَشْتَهِي، وَالْفَرْجُ يُصَدِّقُ ذَلِكَ أَوْ يُكَذِّبُهُ» [صحيح المسلم: ٢٦٥٧]
Translation: It is reported from Ibn ʻAbbās (رضي الله تعالى عنه) that he said, “I have not seen a thing resembling ‘lamam’ (minor sins) more than what Abu Huraira (رضي الله تعالى عنه) narrated from the Prophet (ﷺ) who said: “Allah has written for son of Adam his share of adultery which he commits inevitably. The adultery of the eyes is the sight (to gaze at a forbidden thing), the adultery of the tongue is to talk, and the inner self wishes and desires and the private parts testify all this or deny it.””

And Allah Ta’āla Knows Best
Faizal Dhada
Student, Darul Iftaa
UK

Checked and Approved by,
Mufti Ebrahim Desai

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