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Staying at hotel instead of in-laws

Fatwaa ID: 1133


Is it ok for a husband and wife to stay in a hotel rather than to stay with his (husbands) parents when they visit town in order to avoid fitnah? The parents get very upset over things and restrict them from going out, the parents verbally and emotionally abuse the adult children and speak negatively regarding the wife behind the wife’s back. They made it clear to the wife that she cannot visit her parents that often, let alone letting their son visit his in-laws.

Bear in mind these adult children are not cutting ties, no disrespect, and they meet the parents with honor. But they keep this distance. The parents are upset at them staying at a hotel too. But that’s the only away to avoid fitn and toxicity.

In the Name of Allaah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful.
As-salaamu ‘alaykum wa-rahmatullaahi wa-barakaatuh.

We take note of the details of your query. May Allaah Ta’aala place love and affection for one another in the family and make it easy for everyone. There is no religious reprehension or prohibition in staying at a hotel instead of the in-law’s place. However, we are not in a position to advise you what to do. You know your situation better. Consult with your husband and decide what’s best for your situation. Bear in mind the bigger picture and the consequences of your choices.

And Allaah Ta’aala knows best.
Mufti Muajul I. Chowdhury
Darul Iftaa New York

10/19/1444 AH – 05/09/2023 CE | AML1-7681

وصل اللهم وسلم وبارك على سيدنا محمد وعلى ءاله وصحبه أجمعين


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