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Wishing bad for someone who wronged you

Fatwaa ID: 2166

Assalāmu ‘Alaykum Waraḥmatullāhi Wabarakātuh,
Hope this message reaches you well, Muftī Ṣāḥeb.

Would it be wrong for a person to hold malice for another who’s constantly and continuously wronging them? This person mentioned that they were unsure of if this malice would be appropriate and if whether or not this malice would be considered sinful.

Jazākumullāhu Khairan.

Clarification: Āmīn, Wa’iyyākum!

Jee, Muftī Ṣāḥeb. By malice, I meant that this person was housing feelings of hatred towards the one abusing him, such that they wanted evil to happen to that person. The one being wronged wouldn’t commit any evil against the one wronging him, but he would have in his mind wishing bad to happen to his wrongdoer as a form of “justice.”

Perhaps malice was the wrong word, and instead I should have used another word, Jazākumullāhu Khairan for pointing it out.

In the Name of Allaah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful.
As-salaamu ‘alaykum wa-rahmatullaahi wa-barakaatuh.

It is only natural to love someone who does good to you and detest the one who wrongs you. However, our character and manners as a Muslim demands that we be the better person. Rasulullaah ﷺ advised us to forgive those who wrong us and be good towards them. Be a source of mercy for them. Overlook the wrongs of the ignorant ones. This will increase you in honor and strength. It will help with your mental and emotional health. It will not be so easy. It will require patience, forbearance and tolerance but it will raise you to the level of ihsaan and make you from the muhsinun. When Nabi ﷺ was requested to curse the polythiests who were persecuting the Muslims, Nabi ﷺ refused and reminded them that he was sent as a mercy.

That being said, do not think that they will get away with their wrongs. Allaah Ta’aala is al-Baseer, the All-Seeing. He is al-‘Adl, the Just. Justice will be meted out in this world or the next. Trust Him and leave your matters to Him.

And Allaah Ta’aala knows best.
Mufti Muajul I. Chowdhury
Darul Iftaa New York

08/16/1445 AH – 02/26/2024 CE | AMG1-3763

وصل اللهم وسلم وبارك على سيدنا محمد وعلى ءاله وصحبه أجمعين

إن القلوب جبلت على حب من أحسن إليها وبغض من أساء إليها

اعْفُ عمَّنْ ظَلَمَكَ ، وصِلْ مَنْ قَطَعَكَ ، وأحسنْ إلى مَنْ أساءَ إليكَ ، وقُلْ الحقَّ ولَوْ على نفسِكَ

(خُذِ الْعَفْوَ وَأْمُرْ بِالْعُرْفِ وَأَعْرِضْ عَنِ الْجَاهِلِينَ)[الأعرَاف: 199].

(وَسَارِعُوا إِلَى مَغْفِرَةٍ مِنْ رَبِّكُمْ وَجَنَّةٍ عَرْضُهَا السَّمَاوَاتُ وَالأَرْضُ أُعِدَّتْ لِلْمُتَّقِينَ * الَّذِينَ يُنْفِقُونَ فِي السَّرَّاءِ وَالضَّرَّاءِ وَالْكَاظِمِينَ الْغَيْظَ وَالْعَافِينَ عَنِ النَّاسِ وَاللَّهُ يُحِبُّ الْمُحْسِنِينَ)[آل عِمرَان: 133-134].

قال الني ﷺ: “وما زاد الله عبدًا بعفو إلا عزًّا” (رواه مسلم)

قال رسول الله ﷺ: “ثلاث أقسم عليهن: ما نقص مال من صدقة، وما زاد الله عبدًا بعفو إلا عزًا، ومَن تواضع لله رفعه الله” (رواه أحمد والترمذي)


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