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Woman being intimate with her husband during her menses and having orgasms from that

Fatwaa ID: 150

Question:

اسللام علیکم 

Is it permissible for woman to have orgasm during her menses. I have read few online fatwas including one from following link.  https://islamqa.info/en/36722[i]

Above has detailed information and shows that man can be intimate with barrier from navel to knees. What I fail to understand is if woman is also allowed to be intimate with her husband. In doing so if she has orgasm will this be permissible. 

Jazakallah

Answer:

In the Name of Allaah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful.

As-salāmu ‘alaykum wa-rahmatullāhi wa-barakātuh.

There is no restriction in women having legitimate orgasms during the menses. If a husband wishes to derive pleasure from his wife during the menses from above the navel and below the knees, he may do so. Her experience of orgasm through that will be due to a legitimate practice[ii].

And Allaah Ta’aala Knows Best

Muajul I. Chowdhury
Student, Darul Iftaa
New York, USA

Checked and Approved by,
Mufti Ebrahim Desai.

وصل اللهم وسلم وبارك على سيدنا محمد وعلى ءاله وصحبه أجمعين


[i] 36722: Intimacy with one’s wife when she is menstruating or in nifaas

Can I have romance with my wife while she is in the state of inpurity (mens. and after child birth).

Published Date: 2009-02-24

Praise be to Allaah.  

A man can be intimate with his wife when she is menstruating or in nifaas; this falls into three categories: 

1 – Being intimate and having intercourse with her in the vagina. This is haraam according to the consensus of the Muslims and the text of the Qur’aan. Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning): 

“They ask you concerning menstruation. Say: that is an Adha (a harmful thing for a husband to have a sexual intercourse with his wife while she is having her menses), therefore, keep away from women during menses and go not unto them till they are purified (from menses and have taken a bath)”  [al-Baqarah 2:222] 

2 – Being intimate by kissing, embracing, touching etc. parts that are above the navel and below the knee. This is permissible according to scholarly consensus. 

See Sharh Muslim by al-Nawawi, and al-Mughni, 1/414 

3 – Being intimate with regard to the area between the navel and the knee, apart from the front or back passage. The scholars differed as to whether this is permissible. Imam Abu Haneefah, Imam Maalik and al-Shaafa’i were of the view that this is haraam, and Imam Ahmad was of the view that this is permissible; the latter view was also shared by some Hanafis, Maalikis and Shaafa’is. Al-Nawawi said: The evidence for this view is stronger and it is the preferred view. 

Those who say that it is permissible quoted evidence from the Qur’aan and Sunnah. 

With regard to Qur’aanic evidence, they quoted the verse mentioned above (interpretation of the meaning): 

“…therefore, keep away from women during menses and go not unto them till they are purified (from menses and have taken a bath)”
[al-Baqarah 2:222] 

The phrase fi’l-maheed (translated as during menses) refers to both the time of menstruation and the site of menstruation, which is the vagina. So long as the woman is menstruating, having intercourse with her in the vagina is haraam. 

Ibn Qudaamah said in al-Mughni, 1/415: 

The fact that the site of bleeding is mentioned specifically indicates that it is permissible to be intimate in other areas. 

With regard to the Sunnah, Muslim (302) narrated from Anas that the Jews, if any of their women was menstruating, would not eat with them or meet with them in their houses. The companions of the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) asked the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) about that, then Allaah revealed the verse (interpretation of the meaning): 

“They ask you concerning menstruation. Say: that is an Adha (a harmful thing for a husband to have a sexual intercourse with his wife while she is having her menses), therefore, keep away from women during menses and go not unto them till they are purified (from menses and have taken a bath). And when they have purified themselves, then go in unto them as Allaah has ordained for you (go in unto them in any manner as long as it is in their vagina). Truly, Allaah loves those who turn unto Him in repentance and loves those who purify themselves”

[al-Baqarah 2:222] 

The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “So do everything except intercourse.” News of that reached the Jews and they said, “What does this man want? He does not leave any of our affairs but he differs from it!” 

What is meant by “they would not meet with them in their houses” is that they would not mix with them or stay in the same room with them. This was the view of al-Nawawi. 

Abu Dawood (272) narrated from ‘Ikrimah from one of the wives of the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) that when the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) wanted to engage in any intimacy with one of his wives when she was menstruating, he would put a piece of cloth over her private part. Al-Haafiz said: its isnaad is qawiy (strong); it was classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Saheeh Abi Dawood, 242. 

It says in Fataawa al-Lajnah al-Daa’imah, 5/395: 

It is haraam for the husband to have intercourse with his wife in her vagina when she is menstruating, but he may be intimate with her everywhere else. 

It is better for the man, if he wants to be intimate with his wife when she is menstruating, to tell her to wear something to cover her between the navel and the knees, then he may be intimate with her in any other area. 

Al-Bukhaari (302) and Muslim (2293) narrated that ‘Aa’ishah said: “If one of us was menstruating and the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) wanted to be intimate with her, he would tell her to wear an izaar (waist wrapper) at the peak of her menstruation, then he would be intimate with her.” 

Muslim (294) narrated that Maymoonah said: The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) would be intimate with his wives above the izaar (waist wrapper) when they were menstruating. 

“The peak of her menstruation” means at the beginning when the flow is heaviest. This was the view of al-Khattaabi. 

Ibn al-Qayyim said in Tahdheeb al-Sunan, commenting on hadeeth no. 2167 from ‘Awn al-Ma’bood

The hadeeth “Do everything except intercourse” clearly indicates that what is forbidden is only intercourse in the site of menstruation, which is intercourse in the vagina, but everything else is permissible. The hadeeth which speak about the izaar (waist wrapper) do not contradict that, because that is a precautionary measure and is better. 

It may be that a distinction is made between the beginning of the period and the end, so that it is mustahabb to cover the area between the navel and the knee when the bleeding is heaviest, which is at the beginning of the period. 

Al-Haafiz said: 

This is supported by the hadeeth narrated by Ibn Maajah with a hasan isnaad from Umm Salamah, that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) would avoid intimacy with her for three (days), then he would be intimate with her after that.  

Note: 

The rulings mentioned above apply to both menstruating women and women in nifaas (bleeding after childbirth). 

Ibn Qudaamah (may Allaah have mercy on him) said, after mentioning the rulings on a man being intimate with his wife when she is menstruating: 

The woman in nifaas is like the woman who is menstruating in this regard. 

Al-Mughni, 1/419. 

And Allaah knows best.

[ii]  البحر الرائق شرح كنز الدقائق (1/ 209)

يجوز الاستمتاع بالسرة وما فوقها وبالركبة وما تحتها والمحرم الاستمتاع بما بينهما وهي أحسن من عبارة بعضهم يستمتع بما فوق السرة وما تحت الركبة كما لا يخفى فيجوز له الاستمتاع فيما عدا ما ذكر بوطء وغيره ولو بلا حائل وكذا بما بينهما بحائل بغير الوطء ولو تلطخ دما

منحة الخالق شرح كنز الدقائق (1/ 209)

ثم اختلفوا في تفسير قول أبي حنيفة – رحمه الله – قال بعضهم لا يباح الاستمتاع من النظر ونحوه بما دون السرة إلى الركبة ويباح ما وراءه وقال بعضهم يباح الاستمتاع مع الإزار. اهـ.

حاشية ابن عابدين (رد المحتار) (1/ 292)

(قوله يعني ما بين سرة وركبة) فيجوز الاستمتاع بالسرة وما فوقها والركبة وما تحتها ولو بلا حائل، وكذا بما بينهما بحائل بغير الوطء ولو تلطخ دما

بدائع الصنائع في ترتيب الشرائع  (5/ 119)

لا يحل له وطؤها في حالة الحيض لقوله تبارك وتعالى {ويسألونك عن المحيض قل هو أذى فاعتزلوا النساء في المحيض ولا تقربوهن حتى يطهرن} [البقرة: 222] فصارت حالة الحيض مخصوصة عن عموم النص الذي تلونا.

وهل يحل الاستمتاع بها فيما دون الفرج؟ اختلف فيه قال أبو حنيفة وأبو يوسف – رضي الله عنهما – لا يحل الاستمتاع بما فوق الإزار وقال محمد – رحمه الله – يجتنب شعار الدم وله ما سوى ذلك واختلف المشايخ في تفسير قولهما بما فوق الإزار قال بعضهم المراد منه ما فوق السرة فيحل الاستمتاع بما فوق سرتها ولا يباح بما تحتها إلى الركبة وقال بعضهم المراد منه مع الإزار فيحل الاستمتاع بما تحت سرتها سوى الفرج لكن مع المئزر لا مكشوفا ويمكن العمل بعموم قولهما بما فوق الإزار لأنه يتناول ما فوق السرة وما تحتها سوى الفرج مع المئزر إذ كل ذلك فوق الإزار فيكون عملا بعموم اللفظ والله سبحانه وتعالى أعلم.

الجوهرة النيرة على مختصر القدوري (ص 38)

وَلَهُ أَنْ يُقَبِّلَهَا وَيُضَاجِعَهَا وَيَسْتَمْتِعَ بِجَمِيعِ بَدَنِهَا مَا خَلَا مَا بَيْنَ السُّرَّةِ وَالرُّكْبَةِ عِنْدَهُمَا، وَقَالَ مُحَمَّدٌ يَسْتَمْتِعُ بِجَمِيعِ بَدَنِهَا وَيَجْتَنِبُ شِعَارَ الدَّمِ لَا غَيْرُ وَهُوَ مَوْضِعُ خُرُوجِهِ

البناية شرح الهداية (1/ 646)

قال أبو حنيفة وهو رواية عن أبي يوسف يجوز الاستمتاع بالحائض بما فوق السرة وما تحت الركبة.

وتحرم المباشرة بين السرة والركبة بدون الإزار، وهو قول سعيد بن المسيب، وسالم، والقاسم، وشريح، وطاووس، وقتادة، وسليمان بن يسار، ومالك، والشافعي – رَضِيَ اللَّهُ عَنْهُ – وحكاه البغوي عن أكثر العلماء. وقال محمد: يجوز الاستمتاع بما دون السرة بلا إزار، ويجب عليه اجتناب شعار الدم وهو قول عطاء، والشعبي، والنخعي، والثوري، وأحمد، وأصبغ المالكي، وأبي ثور، وإسحاق، وابن المنذر، وداود، واحتجوا بما روي عن ابن عباس في قَوْله تَعَالَى: {فَاعْتَزِلُوا النِّسَاءَ فِي الْمَحِيضِ} [البقرة: 222] (البقرة: الآية 222) ، أي فاعتزلوا نكاح فروجهن،

فتاوى محمودية (8/ 216)

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