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You act like my mother

Fatwaa ID: 1244

I have received a query from a client and require clarity on the Islamic ruling in this regard

If a man tells his wife “you act like my mother” or words similar to these and he means that the wife scolds or nags him as if she was his mother – having no known intention of divorce – is this statement now considered Zihar? And if so does he now have to pay the stipulated penalties to have the sin expiated before he can have relations with his wife again?

In the Name of Allaah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful.
As-salaamu ‘alaykum wa-rahmatullaahi wa-barakaatuh.

The statement in question will not constitute zihaar nor talaaq. The marriage is intact.

Such a statement is unkind and should be avoided. One should talk to his spouse with kindness and love. If there is an issue of concern, then it should be discussed amicably.

And Allaah Ta’aala knows best.
Mufti Muajul I. Chowdhury
Darul Iftaa New York

وصل اللهم وسلم وبارك على سيدنا محمد وعلى ءاله وصحبه أجمعين

النتف في الفتاوى (1/373)
ﻭﻟﻮ ﻗﺎﻝ اﻧﺖ ﻋﻠﻲ ﻛﺄﻣﻲ ﻓﺎﻥ ﺃﺭاﺩ ﺑﻪ اﻟﻄﻼﻕ ﻓﻬﻮ ﻃﻼﻕ ﻭاﻥ ﺃﺭاﺩ ﺑﻪ اﻟﻈﻬﺎﺭ ﻓﻬﻮ ﻇﻬﺎﺭ ﻭاﻥ ﻟﻢ ﻳﻨﻮ ﺑﻪ ﺷﻴﺌﺎ ﻓﻠﻴﺲ ﺑﺸﻲء


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