Fatwaa ID: 1801
I recently found out a guy who was married cheated on his wife with me. I wasn’t aware he was married at the time and I have since ended all contact with him and made tawbah. However, after discovering the news, the guilt and disgust is eating me alive and I’ve been having trouble sleeping. Should I tell his wife about our affair? My intentions are not to break them up but to tell her what kind of man he is.
In the Name of Allaah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful.
As-salaamu ‘alaykum wa-rahmatullaahi wa-barakaatuh.
We take note of the details of your query. It seems that you are worried more about him having been married than your own self. Zina, illicit relations out of marriage, is a grave and major sin, irrespective of whether the perpetrators are married or not. You were sinful and wrong to commit zina with him just as he was sinful and wrong. His being married does not change the fact that you engaged in zina, a heinous crime. Understand what kind of a woman you are. Turn back to Allaah Ta’aala. You are accountable for your sins and he is accountable for his. Understand the gravity of your sin and make sincere tawbah and istighfaar. As for telling his wife about your sins with her husband, leave it to him. Do not interfere into his marriage. Let him decide how he wants to move forward.
And Allaah Ta’aala knows best.
Mufti Muajul I. Chowdhury
Darul Iftaa New York
03/15/1445 AH – 10/01/2023 CE | 625
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